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Kill me Now~ Adventures is Dating after 40

As you know I love the authors I come to meet and interact with on twitter. My next post is about just such a man. He will make you laugh and cry in his adventures in dating after 40.   Lawrence Fisher and I tweet daily and in the short time I’ve known him he has endeared himself to me with his simple charm and witty,engaging tweets. If you aren’t following him on twitter you can follow his sweet and charming banter on Twitter @ibigfoot or follow his blog at Killmenow.org

This is an exert from his book and I wanted to share it with you. I encourage you to buy his book so that you understand that you are not alone in your adventures in dating after 40. Have a chuckle and be encouraged to to keep trying to no matter what happens.

From The Blog Kill Me Now

 

An Excerpt…..

No date again, woe is me! How many of us have sat at home wondering why we don’t have a date? How many of us have gone to a bar to look for a girl, found someone interesting and just froze? What should we say to her? What is a good pick up line? Questions, questions, questions! Help!

Those of us who know how to use the internet instinctively say, “Google it!” In the search tab, you type in, “how to pick up girls” and hope for the best. You then receive a plethora of websites offering you information from the best of the best. THE experts! Or so you assume. One site says there are plenty of people who are good at picking up girls, but cannot explain their art. If they cannot explain, then what good are they to us? Do they describe which girls they are trying to pick up? What kind of girls were these, real or imagined?

One night, I decided to try a line from one of those websites. Me, myself and I, the holy trio, decided to go to a bar. A stunning brunette caught my attention as she eyed the crowd. Somehow she managed to avoid eye contact with me. I walked up to the lady and took out my iPhone and hoped it impressed her.

Reading off my iPhone, I said, “Baby, I’m no Fred Flintstone but I can make your Bedrock.” OK, I agree with you. That is lame.

She leaned toward me seductively and said, “Go Google again!” Was she being rude to me or not? I have no idea. I think she had learned the true art of diplomacy, which is the ability to tell someone to go to hell so that he actually looks forward to the trip.

You obviously realize that it is important to make a good first impression. The first impression is vital. It is difficult to correct a bad first impression. Oh, the pressure, the pressure. You only get one chance to do it right!

Going up to a girl at a bar, saying, “What is a girl like you doing in a place like this?” will probably earn you a smirk. Not only is the line antiquated, but it seems to work only in the movies, and sometimes not even there. The only time I tried that line, the girl said it was her bar and that I should not refer to it as “such a place”.

Oh, what should I do? What should I do?

The internet provides contradicting information. What’s new? When you are searching for something in your field, you understand whether it sounds right or not. But if your understanding is close to zero, how can you define what is right and what is not?

Somehow you need to hone your non-existent skills. Somehow you need more practice. Somehow you need experienced friends.

Looking at my friends and hearing their stories, I wonder, does experience really help?

Oh, crap! Kill me now!

Read his blog for more fun and adventure in dating after 40.

 

Trying to pickup a girl in a bar

If you would like tips to aid you in learning to date again this blog has tips for the gentlemen and many dating coaches that are trained to help you get back into the dating game.

I’m a dating “coax” and have 8 years experience helping Singles in the matchmaking industry. My email is always open to help,encourage, and give advice to you in your dating endeavors [email protected]. My advice is free and will be expanding into call-in sessions in 2012 with a fee based sessions for you to schedule.I will be introducing in the near future.

You might enjoy the blog post  Dating advice for the the Men From the blog DatingDivaSites.com or  try working with a dating and relating expect like Coach Stephanie .Whom I know personally and believe her to be a great relationship expert. (and wonderful lady in general) She is a trained relationship coach, a talented author, with a degree in marketing.

Click the follow link to enjoy your copy of  Kill Me Now Get a copy  for a 40 and over dating friend!

62 comments

  1. Sherie says:

    First impressions are critical! When I was single (16 years ago, LOL), my wonderful husband just introduced himself to me, no lines, just “Hello”…..authenticity works!!

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      That’s just what I say to my clients Sherie!!! Just be you because in the end that’s what someone will be interested in..if not then nothing lost!

      1. Lawrence says:

        How about a simple “How you doing?” Worked with Joey.

        1. datingdiva61 says:

          LOL well it didn’t really work but Hi nice to meet you is a good start and work from there.

          1. Lawrence says:

            Then how about: “Helloooo. Is it me you’re looking for? I can see it in your eyes, I can see it in your smile.”

            Maybe someone has already done that?

  2. Edmund Lee says:

    That’s a hilarious clip. So true from people that I have coached previously. I’ve found that the easiest way to have success is to empower your mind, study from the best, and take massive action. It’s through action and repetition that you gain confidence and experience.

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      I agree Edmund!!!! I loved the clip and the author of the book is such a nice guy!!!

      1. Lawrence says:

        I am blushing. Thanks.

        But I really have found that we never know what the other side is thinking. Do not settle for second best. Try anyway.

  3. Kim Garst says:

    Love how you encourage people that they CAN find a mate. Great article!

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Thanks Kim!!! There is someone for everyone it’s just a matter of looking in the right places and marketing yourself in the right way!!!

    2. Lawrence says:

      I know the author personally and he is not giving up.

  4. Lorrie says:

    I love this blog and now I have 2 to follow. Fun, informative, engaging. Thanks.

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Big Hug Lorrie!!! I love what I do and I enjoy reading your blog and fanpage!

    2. Lawrence says:

      I will also check out your blog

  5. Julie Weishaar says:

    Love the video – been there – done that and found my Mr. Right on Match :)

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Thanks Julie, I have a whole army of people I know that met their special someone online.

      1. Lawrence says:

        With today’s life style online is used often. This is a video I started doing but never blogged about it:

  6. Max M. says:

    Love that clip. I’m definitely gonna check out some more from Kill Me Now.

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Please visit Lawrence’s blog for more great stories and follow him on twitter.. such a nice guy!

    2. Lawrence says:

      Come on over Max

  7. Beau Henderson says:

    Its so interesting how we make things so complicated sometimes. I am glad that I am no longer single

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      LOL Being single is tough and I think it’s tougher the second time around. I love consulting with singles and guiding them through the dating process. It’s so rewarding. That you for stopping by Beau!

  8. isa says:

    funny post…makes me glad i’m not single either. honestly if i had to date i wouldn’t know what to do…positive mentality goes a long way

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      You are right! Thinking positive does go a long way!

  9. Beth Heilman says:

    Love how he Googled pick up lines! Dating after 40 IS tough and dating after 50 is even tougher. Glad I’m happily attached, but for those who aren’t the book would be great. Thanks for sharing it.

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Thanks Beth! I think so too!

    2. Lawrence says:

      Hi Beth

      The book is written to entertain. It has a few stories that happens in bars and I am not even a drinker. After watching the Big Bang Theory, maybe I should try Raj’s remedies.

      I am not giving up.

      Lawrence

  10. Connie says:

    I so agree with Sherie! A pickup line by its very nature is fake, and many are just dumb. Say hi, introduce yourself, and tell me I caught your eye…and I’ll *know* you’re interested! :)

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Thanks For Stopping in and Yes I think a hi I saw you and want to come over and introduce myself is a great way to start!

    2. Lawrence says:

      Hmmm. I tried that. She said “Get away from me you creep!”
      OUCH. Then she continued, “Can’t you see I am a guy?”

  11. Elise Adams @AdamsOrganizing says:

    Love your upbeat and humorous message here :-)

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Thank this was fun to work with this author! He’s a great guy!

      1. Lawrence says:

        Liz, if you are not careful one of the unattached ladies here will start flirting with me

        Lawrence

        1. datingdiva61 says:

          LOL that’s my goal my friend..;)

        2. datingdiva61 says:

          ..;) That’s the plan.. get a nice guy for some nice lady follower I have ..;) Matchmaking is my career and hobby!!! Watchout!

          1. Lawrence says:

            Career and hobby. Come on over Liz.

            I have made Tiramissu. We will open a bottle of wine and chill.

  12. Katrina Moody says:

    Love it … I was giggling and I am not in the market for a guy (maybe to bop mine over the head once in a while, but no replacement yet!)

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      It’s too cute!!!! I want o learn to do video stuff like this! LOL

      1. Lawrence says:

        Liz,

        Come on over and I will teach you. What do you want for dinner?

        Lawrence
        killmenow.org/blog

  13. Lawrence says:

    Liz, thank you so much for this review. People thank you so much for your comments.

    The weekend is nigh and I wish you all a great weekend.

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Lawrence I love the book and the Video.. I would really like to do some for my Dating sites and love what you’ve done…I might get you to help me with that if you will!!! Hugs!

      1. Lawrence says:

        Only after dinner. Wink, wink, say no more, say no more

        Kisses and hugs from here

  14. Jennifer Bennett says:

    Great article! It’s all about being yourself! Thanks for sharing!

  15. Norma Doiron@Health, Wellness & Weight Loss says:

    Well… if ever I need to find a partner, I know where to go!
    Lol! You are too funny… (-_-)
    The LEARNED Preneur @ NormaDoiron.NET

  16. Karla Campos says:

    Someone told me “go do what you love and there you will find a lot of interesting people that will be on the same page as you and you will have things in common to talk about and just maybe the right person will be there too”, I think that makes sense. Dating is just so much pressure, I guess with a coach by your side it should make the experience less stressful.

    1. Lawrence says:

      Karla

      It is not a question of a coach. Dating is pressured, I agree. But have fun. The other side is just as pressured as you are.

      Check this out http://killmenow.org/how-to-be-a-great-date/ by Kelly Ellzy on my web site.

      Just have fun. Who knows you may start enjoying it.

      Lawrence

  17. Lisa Birnesser says:

    I have experienced the adventures of dating after 40.. oh dear! First impressions make a difference. Just being yourself always does the trick! Thanks!

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      I think so too Lisa! Thanks for stopping by!

  18. Mona says:

    Indeed, it’s about being yourself! I wish more men would realize that just saying, “Hello, my name is _____,” is more effective than any line.

    How nice to read a fellow blogger that has as much fun as I do!

  19. Solvita says:

    Thank you Dating Diva for helping singles… well you know I am still dating my spouse… and as you suggested I’ll never going to stop doing it…I think being myself was important in finding the right match! :)

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      I think so too..You can’t pretend to be someone else forever can you?..;) Never stop dating your spouse..;)

  20. Norma Doiron @Living|Healthy|Wealthy|Wise says:

    Humorous… Interesting and to the point. That’s what I think too – keep it simple! (-_-)
    The LEARNED Preneur @ NormaDoiron.NET

  21. Susan Preston says:

    Great post I loved it and better yet, it’s from 2 of my favorite people :) Thank you!

    1. Lawrence says:

      Glad you enjoyed it Susan

  22. Rhonda Uretzky says:

    Humor is key to enjoying even the hardest moments in life! In a very wry little piece in New Yorker Magazine called Alarm Bells, the author noted that certain things set off warning bells on any first date – like the woman who explained that she received all her messages about relationships from the giant silkworm Xanthar who lived in her head, and never once asked him about the invisible sloth that talks the truth to him. Being self centered, he said, sets off definite warning bells. And, if he ever gets to a second date, he will continue to let us know what to watch out for as a relationship progresses.

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      LOL@The giant silkworm! That is so funny Rhonda! PLease update us about how it all goes.

  23. Marie Leslie says:

    Great post. There’s just nothing quite like a bad pick-up line, is there? I think the key is to be yourself and to be interested. There is nothing that makes people interested faster than someone who is genuinely interested in them. Don’t try to be who you aren’t. Sooner or later, you’re going to need to be yourself to make a relationship work long term.

    I always enjoy reading your blog and passing the tidbits on to my single friends.

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Thanks Marie , You have great advice and I enjoy reading you site as well. I thought this was so cute and fun! I hope The book does well.

      1. Lawrence says:

        I also hope the book does well.

        Thanks all

  24. Dr. Daisy Sutherland says:

    Great post! I can’t imagine dating now..and how difficult it must be. I’m glad that you are helping many with this challenge:) Your posts are great and very informative and always share the tips with my single friends:)

    1. datingdiva61 says:

      Thanks Daisy..;)

  25. Jennifer says:

    Okay, I have to admit that as someone who is blissfully happy as a single person, I often just skim a post about dating, but this one really caught my attention and made me laugh. It’s nice to see that not everyone who’s single is miserable and taking life way too seriously . . .

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